When someone in your life struggles with chronic migraine, it’s easy to feel powerless. It can be incredibly heart-wrenching to watch someone you love endure intense and unrelenting migraine attacks and feel unsure of what to say or how to help. Feeling this tension, between wanting to help and not knowing how to, is completely normal, especially if you have never experienced migraine firsthand.
I’ve learned that effectively supporting people we care about isn’t always straightforward and intuitive — but it can be learned and improved upon over time with mindfulness and motivation.
As someone who lives with chronic migraine, I hope these suggestions will empower you to better support a loved one and give you new ideas of ways to show up for them and their struggle.
1. Offer to help with practical life tasks.
For many living with migraine, attacks last much longer than a few hours, or a single morning or afternoon. Often, the pain can be so intense that the attack seems to absorb time like a black hole.
As the person experiencing migraine, it’s heartbreaking to watch your responsibilities slip through your fingers; you are simply physically unable to do the things you need to do to keep your life and household functioning….